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This Is the Best Time to Do Anything

2 Jul

Do you want to make your life better?  If you do, then you are not alone.  In fact, most people want to change at least one thing about their current lives and many want to change several.  Countless people are completely dissatisfied and struggle going to jobs and doing things they dislike or even hate every single day.

So, let me ask you this:  If you could, is there anyone you would like to trade places with?  Maybe it’s a famous celebrity or athlete, or a powerful business person, or maybe it’s just someone you think is more physically beautiful than you. Can you imagine yourself actually being that person, doing what they do every day? It’s a pretty awesome thought, isn’t it?  Ahhh… if things were only that wonderful and easy! The crazy thing is – I can guarantee you this – the person you want to trade places with also has the same thoughts.  They also hate certain things about their life and look at other people and fantasize about being them. Some call this, “The grass is always greener” syndrome, but it is a little deeper than that. You see, everything is relative.  Your problems are always more important (and bigger) to you than they are to anyone else, and it is easy to only look at what someone else allows you to see and falsely believe that’s the way their entire life is. Social media is the biggest example of this.  It is well known that most people lead very different lives than what they show the world on Facebook and Instagram.  You are either seeing the life they wished they had or at beast, the highlights of the life they really lead.  Don’t buy into it.  Comparing your life to someone else’s fake life is one of the quickest ways to get depressed.  The first key to happiness is thinking accurately and being realistic.  In other words, being able to separate the real world from fantasy.

The next step is setting goals based in this reality.  Small goals that can be attained in a relatively short period of time.  Achieving each goal builds momentum and leads you to the next.  This constant small short-term success leads to huge long-term success. It works the same way as building wealth through investments.  One of the best things you can ever learn at a young age is the power of compound interest and the rule of 72.  The rule of 72 helps you calculate how long it will take to double your money if it’s growing at a certain rate. You just divide 72 by that number.  For example, it will take eight years to double your money if it’s growing at 9% per year (72/9=8).  Nine percent does not seem like a lot.  For example, if you have $10,000 and get 9% interest, you will only make $900 that first year.  But check out how compound interest works:  If you invest this $10,000 at 9% interest when you are 18 years old and don’t touch any of the principle or interest (and aren’t taxed on the gains along the way), then by the time you are 74 you will have $1.28 million!  That’s because your money is doubling every eight years.  The new principle with the new interest is doubling.  So, in those 56 years…  the amount doubled seven times.

Many believe a similar principle holds true in personal development and success.  It cannot be mathematically calculated the same as money, but success seems to grow on itself in a similar “exponential” manner.  That’s why starting with small goals and achieving them is so important.  You start becoming exponentially more successful with each achieved goal.  Each goal all by itself seems inconsequential.  But a steady stream of small goals creates a massive amount of compound interest over your lifetime.  What’s that?  You are not 18 and it’s too late to start?  That is 100% untrue and here is why.  The good thing about success is it’s not limited by interest rates and time like money is.  You can literally short-cut success by simply doing more in less time.  You cannot do that with money.

So, what’s the best time to take action and start becoming successful – whether it is in your career, relationships, weight loss, health, or whatever?  That time is right now.  Not tomorrow.  Not in an hour.  Now.

Best,
Dr. Binder

A “Simple” Quote That Can Change Your Life

4 May

Life is complicated.  As you get older and take on more responsibilities, there never seems to be enough time in the day to get everything done, which causes stress.

Well, what if all that complexity, stress, and strain was NOT mandatory?  What if most… if not all… of life’s difficulties are actually self-imposed?  What if there was a simple way to shed all the frustration and finally live a much more satisfying and rewarding life? If that’s something you are interested in, then you will love this quote…

“I learned this, at least, by my experiment; that if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours…. In proportion as he simplifies his life, the laws of the universe will appear less complex, and solitude will not be solitude, nor poverty poverty, nor weakness weakness.”

That quote is by Henry David Thoreau, a man whom you may remember from your high school days for living in a small, self-built house in the woods located on Walden Pond for two years. Why did Thoreau spend two years living in the woods?  Here is the reason he gave…

“I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived.  I did not wish to live what was not life, living is so dear; nor did I wish to practice resignation, unless it was quite necessary.  I wanted to live deep and suck out all the marrow of life, to live so sturdily and Spartan-like as to put to rout all that was not life, to cut a broad swath and shave close, to drive life into a corner, and reduce it to its lowest terms, and, if it proved to be mean, why then to get the whole and genuine meanness of it, and publish its meanness to the world; or if it were sublime, to know it by experience, and be able to give a true account of it in my next excursion.”

What does this have to do with you?  Should you go live in the woods? Probably not.  But there are many life lessons that can be learned from Thoreau’s experiences and writings, and the most powerful might be: SIMPLIFICATION.

We all tend to make life much more complicated than it actually is.  We worry about things we do not have to worry about, and we make a big deal out of things that we either cannot change or just don’t matter. Why do we do this?  We do it because everyone else does, which is why so many of us believe it is the only way.

Getting and staying healthy is the same.  We are led to believe that achieving a healthy weight and maintaining an active lifestyle is a complex process.  In fact, for the vast majority, getting and staying healthy is quite simple:  eat simple (avoid processed foods and eat more fruits and veggies, for example); do basic, simple exercise; and simplify other parts of your life to reduce stress and strain.

Practicing simplification is one of the most powerful things you can ever do.

Best,
Dr. Binder

How to Get More Out of Life

6 Apr

Ever heard of the law of unintended consequences? In a nutshell, it means that all actions, no matter how great or how small, can have unforeseen consequences in both the short-term and over the long-term.

These consequences can be good, bad, or just neutral.  But what can also vary drastically is the magnitude of impact.  In other words, seemingly small actions can have HUGE unintended consequences down the road.

James Robertson’s story is a perfect example.  His amazing experience is detailed in this month’s Inspirational Story.  Basically, Robertson’s car quit on him, and he has been mostly walking to work – a 21 miles round trip – for 12 years.

Through an acquaintance, his story was featured in a local newspaper. After seeing the feature, a 19-year-old college student started a GoFundMe account to try and raise money on his behalf to purchase a car.  In just four days, the campaign raised $300,000 from 11,400 donors.  More money has since been raised, and a local car dealership pitched in and gave Robertson a brand new car.

Wow.  As you can see, the law of unintended consequences is clearly at work here.

Both the money raised through the GoFundMe campaign and the new car were unintended consequences of a person sharing Robertson’s story with a reporter at the local newspaper.

What about negative unintended consequences?

Here is one:  Robertson lives in a bad area.  In fact, not too long ago, a man from his neighborhood won $20 million in the lottery and disappeared.  He was later found murdered, and it is believed he was killed for the money.

Accordingly, Robertson became afraid to live in his neighborhood with his new money and publicity.  Thankfully, a supporter stepped in and helped him find a new apartment in a safer area.

In the end, it really is amazing how one small action can set off a massive chain of events that can drastically change someone’s life – or many people’s lives.

One of the most amazing parts of Robertson’s story is that there were 11,400 donators who raised the initial $300,000.  The average donation was only $26.32.  It is doubtful anyone who donated such a small amount of money would think their actions would be part of something with such a massive impact on a person’s fortunes.

What’s incredible about life is that most big changes do not come from equally big actions.  Instead, they come from the accumulation of small actions.  Consistently doing the right small things each and every day have much more of an impact on your life and the lives of others than trying to find that one big solution.

No matter what you want to do — make more money, improve your career, learn a new language, lose weight, etc. — it’s all about taking the right small steps consistently.

Forget about the “secrets to massive overnight success.”  Just take one baby step in the right direction right now… and never stop.

Best,

Dr. Binder

Do You Want to Be Lucky? Here’s How…

2 Feb

Here is an old saying you have probably heard:  “It is better to be lucky than good.”

Many people agree with it because while being good may make you just a little better than average, being lucky can have a major impact on your life.

While some people do not believe in luck, most do.  Most believe that there is both good and bad luck, and most want all the good luck they can get.

How can you do that?

When you are dealing with something as unquantifiable and intangible as luck, it is impossible for anyone to say they have an exact formula, but here are some things you might want to consider…

There’s another saying, “Luck is when preparation meets opportunity.”

Countless super-successful people believe that “idea.”  That may not make it true, but it does mean it should be looked into.

See, luck cannot be counted on or controlled but success through preparation can.

If you prepare correctly, you will drastically increase your odds of success.  Then, if luck strikes… good or bad… it is what it is.

If you prepare correctly and consistently throughout life, then you will achieve many more successes than failures, and more “good luck” than bad.

Robert Collier, the author of The Secret of the Ages, wrote, “Luck is a fickle jade that smiles most often on those who need her least.”

The Secret of the Ages was published back in 1926.  He may have been on to something.

Prepare for success without luck and luck will probably find you.

Sincerely,
Dr. Binder

Football Player Reveals Simple Secret To Success

5 Jan

At 37 years old, Tom Brady is one of the best quarterbacks in professional football.

He may not be old for the average person, but 37 is considered old for a professional football player, especially for a super-star professional football player.

So, how does Tom Brady, the quarterback for the New England Patriots, do it?

When asked recently, he said, “I do go to bed very early because I’m up very early.  I think that the decisions I make [probably always] center around performance enhancement, if that makes sense.  So whether that is what I eat or what decisions I make or whether I drink or don’t drink, it’s always football-centric.  I want to be the best I can be every day.  I want to be the best I can be every week.  I want to be the best I can be for my teammates.”

What does this have to do with you?

Quite a bit, actually.

I’m sure you noticed that Tom Brady’s “secret” was kind of a let down.  No magic supplements.  No crazy exercise program.

Just common sense-101.

That’s because there really are no secrets to success, great health, or whatever you want to achieve in life.

Something like going to bed early can have a dramatic impact on your health and performance in the long-term.  It is hard or impossible to measure the impact of just one night’s sleep, but there is no doubt that years of consistently doing the right thing pays HUGE dividends.

The same holds true for diet and exercise.

One meal or walk around the block does not seem to mean much, but those exact same things done ritualistically for years can change your life.

So, follow Tom Brady’s example… and go to bed early TONIGHT.  And start eating right and exercising RIGHT NOW.

Not tomorrow.  Not next week.  Not after the holidays.  RIGHT NOW.

And then, don’t stop.

Sincerely,

Dr. Binder

Want a Better, Healthier Life?

12 Dec

Stupid question.  Who doesn’t want to live a longer and better life?  The real question is: Are you willing to take these simple steps to achieve it?

What simple steps?

Let me explain the very interesting (and promising) finding of a new study.  In the study, researchers in California claim they are the first to reverse the memory loss associated with Alzheimer’s disease.  Now, if you think this is not for you because you do not have Alzheimer’s, you would be incorrect.  This is important for everyone.

Here is why…

According to a story run by KGW news (a partner of NBC), “The study, released in partnership with the Buck Institute for Research and Aging, claims 9 out of 10 patients with progressive memory loss had their symptoms reversed within three to six months after undergoing an ultra-healthy lifestyle change personalized to each patient. The one person who did not show improvement had late stage Alzheimer’s.”

What was this incredible approach that got such great results?  Here it is…

  • Eliminating simple carbs from the diet, meaning, no gluten or processed foods.
  • Eating more veggies, fruits, and wild caught fish.
  • Yoga and meditation.
  • Increasing sleep to at least seven hours a night.
  • Exercising at least 30 minutes, six days a week.
  • Taking a regimen of vitamins and supplements.

No incredible new technology.  No invention of a wonder drug.  No magical brain surgery.

Instead, this is just a list of common sense things we already know are the foundations of good health.

Keeping your brain healthy is just a matter of following through on the type of things we already know we should do to keep our bodies healthy. The question is, will you do them?

Sincerely,

Dr. Binder